NUDE IS THE NEW BLACK?
Gay guys everywhere are cursing their bodies as a matter of form. It’s become normal to not like the way you look so more people are joining in on the fun. Personally, I find it a disgrace. As someone who actually loves his body, I know what it’s like to experience social pressure tempting me to feel otherwise. It’s as if our entire culture supports self-loathing. But where did it all start? I have a few theories:
#1) Our Friends Look Like Supermodels
The rules of high school never leave us when we get older. Being associated with an “A group” is always going to make us feel more valuable. In the gay community, the A groups are those with the hottest bodies. We travel in herds, and usually the ones at the head of the pack are sculpted like statues. The psychological aftermath is the sad realization that we don’t look as good as them. Even if we did, there are always going to be people in our group who look better than us anyway. It’s one thing to judge strangers on their bodies, but it’s another thing to choose your friends based on that as well. Staring at hot bodies all day will eventually get your mind wondering.
#2) Because the Men We See Everyday at the Gym Look like Roman Gods
We go to the gym and see the doppelgangers of our favorite porn stars, right there, working out like it was no big deal. Not just that, but we also see them showering in the locker rooms and rubbing their pecs in the sauna, all the while we’re imagining what it’s like to be in their skin. It’s terrifying to know that our boyfriends see the same guys too, which makes us a bit anxious to try and keep our body in shape so his head won’t go turning at the site of the nearest bicep.
#3) If We’re Not Hot, We Don’t Get Laid
It’s common knowledge that hot people have sex with hot people, but in the gay community it’s not even a question. When you’re average looking, the hot guy in the club is merely eye candy; when you’re equally as attractive, you actually have a shot. One day of missing the gym can convince us that our sex lives might be at jeopardy. Keeping our bodies attractive becomes a job. We pay our dues and get to reap the benefits of having a sexy boy toy in our bed (for free). But the more we continue to think this, the more we’re going to invent more flaws with ourselves.
#4) All Our Role Models Are Hot
The media tells us we have to be hot because the only people appearing on television, movies, even on stage are attractive. Anderson Cooper, Neil Patrick Harris, basically everyone who does Broadway Bares, even the advocates you see debating marriage equality on CNN, famous gay guys have become prototypes. We’re all grateful for them, don’t get me wrong, but the people behind the camera – the ones rallying, picketing, marching – are the extreme majority, and trust me when I say most of us don’t have six packs.
#5) We’re Seldom Around Average-Looking Bodies
The aftermath of constantly pushing our bodies to the limits is a community full of models, which the gay community is slowly morphing into. But it’s not just on the street. It’s in porn, gay Tumblrs, movies, magazines, websites, etc. We market ourselves as products even to ourselves, so much so that we become both the product and consumer in our daily lives. We buy ourselves, then we sell it to the public with virtually no exchange.
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SOURCE: GAY GUYS
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