(SEX TALK) 10 Things Wrong With Gay Sex Today!

 

Gay sex has been prominent in our species since the beginning, but it’s changed drastically in the last twenty years or so. It’s no longer about being discreet. It’s about being quick, open, and down to drive a few miles away. There’s a wider amount of choices, which has created standard of beauty. In a nutshell, it’s no longer about the act of sex, but rather our role in it.

There are so many things wrong with sex nowadays it’s hard to tell you in one article. I’ve experienced nearly every one of these on either side of the table, as I’m sure most of you have. So, let’s start at the very beginning. Here is everything that’s wrong with gay sex today:


Gay Sex Is “Free” – But You Get What You Pay For

Because casual gay sex has turned digital, gay guys are beginning to treat sex as if they were ordering takeout. One swipe, two swipe, three swipe, boom – a sexy man is now at your door. Sex has almost no intimacy anymore, despite our endless need for it. We’re complaining how much we want a relationship, how desperate we are for romance, how much we want to put ourselves out there, yet we fail to practice what we preach.

If you think about it, sex is free (money wise). The real currency you pay in exchange for gay sex is emotional. Some guys are emotionally stronger than others, don’t get me wrong, but with each “body” you bang, you slowly desensitize yourself from intimacy. In a sense, you’re training your brain how to deal with sexual situations: in a non-emotional way. This ultimately affects how you view love, romance, and sex for the long haul. Never think sex comes for free. It doesn’t.

 Men Have Forgotten That Pleasure Is A Reward, Not a Punishment
The sexual revolution of the 1960s and 70s was wild because people were actively pursuing sex, rather than being nonchalant about it. People expected sex to happen as soon as they left their apartment buildings. Gay men have told me stories about walking to the subway, finding a guy in five minutes, bringing him up to have sex, drinking a coffee and having him go on his way. This was a normal thing. It was something to enjoy (of course, the carelessness of it all soon proved dangerous). Pleasure, in today’s sense, is becoming a punishment rather than a reward.

You have gay sex; but rather than embracing it as a good thing, you think you’re slutty, you blame yourselves for going against your moral stances, or you assume other people are judging you. Just take a breath and be thankful that you had an experience. It doesn’t have to be as psychological as you make it. Pleasure is a totally subjective idea – one that only you can be the judge of. No one can read your mind, so it’s rather easy to dismiss someone’s efforts as “ineffective.”

 We’re Too “Busy” To Have It
 
People are so busy trying to play catch up at work, socially, or at home that we forget to make time for a little hanky-panky. Being a child was great because you didn’t have the responsibility of worrying about bills, work, and your love life, but now we’re too fixated on being the best of all worlds; and it’s exhausting us.
We want to know everything, do everything, and be everything. When I graduated college in 2007, we were at the peak of the recession. Men and women of all ages were fighting for jobs (there were no level-entry positions nearly anywhere); it seems like we’ve yet to get over the grind. But, there is a limit to how much energy and desire we give to both the world and people. If you use it all up in one particular area, you’re inadvertently depriving other areas. Don’t exhaust yourself to the point of forgetting about sex. In fact, you and your man should put it on top of your to-do list and work everything else around it. Trust me, you’ll notice a change in how happy you feel.

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