(COMMUNITY) Pretentious Gay Guys are Taking Over Facebook & It’s Blinding Us From Reality!

By: David Artavia

Social media has become a quiet (kind of obvious) way to brag or show off—Lord knows what you’re bragging about is true or not.

We have become our own directors. We’ve mastered the art of angles, the ability to focus on one thing but really wanting us to pay attention to something else, i.e. taking a picture of your breakfast but in reality it’s your shirtless body you want us to admire.

Shirtless torsos, condescending commentary, bullying posts, rants, and toxic attitudes are everywhere. We have enough of those in the real world, so naturally they need to haunt us online too. There’s literally almost no escape.

Facebook has turned into journaling.

(SEX TALK) 10 Things Gay Guys Should Stop Doing During Sex!

By: Blake Michaels

I’ve had a lot of sex in my life, honey. But unlike most people, I don’t repeat my mistakes. When something doesn’t go right I take a mental note so the next time around it will be close to perfect. Thankfully, my man has noticed and he’s more than willing to return the favor.

For countless of gay guys, sex is flat-lined. Too many of us are stubborn in our ways and refuse to see anyone else’s point of view except our own. This makes it impossible for us to grasp how bad we are in bed. Thankfully I’ve compiled a list for you. I did the dirty work, so now it’s up to you to make it happen. Here are some things we all should avoid in bed:

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(SEX TALK) 10 Things Wrong With Gay Sex Today!

 

Gay sex has been prominent in our species since the beginning, but it’s changed drastically in the last twenty years or so. It’s no longer about being discreet. It’s about being quick, open, and down to drive a few miles away. There’s a wider amount of choices, which has created standard of beauty. In a nutshell, it’s no longer about the act of sex, but rather our role in it.

There are so many things wrong with sex nowadays it’s hard to tell you in one article. I’ve experienced nearly every one of these on either side of the table, as I’m sure most of you have. So, let’s start at the very beginning. Here is everything that’s wrong with gay sex today:

(STEREOTYPES) Proof I Was Born Gay… !

By: Tommy Duchemin


One of the biggest debates about gay men and women is whether we are born gay, or our environment influences us to be gay.

For me, and I’m assuming many other gay men, there’s absolutely no doubt in my mind that I came out of the womb destined to end up where I’m at today.

(IMAGE) Why Depression Won’t Ever Stop Me From Finding Love!

By: David Artavia 
GAY GUYS

It’s an effort nowadays to find a neutral state of being. My heart is constantly being tugged and dragged to the ground by an invisible force, which often goes unnoticed until I’m pinned with grief. The cause is always unknown but one thing is for sure: I have to fight like hell every single day.

People today are afraid to confront sadness—we think it keeps us from achieving our goals. It’s a toxic trait we try and steer away from. We stopped training ourselves on how to deal with it because we’re convinced sadness is contagious. When we’re around a friend who’s sad, our first instinct is to runaway rather than to console or listen.

I’m one of the lucky ones. I know what love looks like (some people go their whole lives without ever knowing). My body remembers how it feels, how it tastes, how it moves—a gentle surprise like a giggle in your tummy.

(COMMUNITY) Straight Men Who Chase After a Gay Guy’s Love!

By: Jerry Plaza


We had a saying when I was doing theater in high school. There’s always a “token straight guy” in every show – the one straight guy in the middle of horny gays and gals who eventually becomes the center of everyone’s attention. Girls flirt with him, gay guys lust after him, and he sits back with his arms behind his head enjoying every second of it. This kind of straight men still exists in the grownup world, but if you ask me it’s gone a bit overboard. Straight men seem to enjoy the attention so much they’ve gotten used to manipulating the hearts of innocent gay guys who actually think they have a chance.

We’ve all gone through it at one point in our lives. It’s no ones fault. After all, straight guys have the ability to attract gay men with little to no effort not because they’re “straight acting” or “more masculine” but because there’s a psychological game happening when we’re around people we know we can’t have. It’s animalistic, knowing we have to fight for our meat is sexy. But are straight guys taking advantage of it?

(COMMUNITY) How to Stop Being in the Gay "Friend" Zone!

By: Jerry Plaza

Sometimes it takes a while to form an intimate connection. I’ve known couples that were friends for years before any romantic spark happened. The friend zone is an interesting place to be when you’re a gay guy, mainly because most of us find it easy to fall for a man as soon as we get close.

When I was young I fell in love a lot. So much so that it was hard for me to be friends with any gay man – within a matter of days, I’d start to grow feelings. When you’re in the friend zone, it seems like your hours are numbered before you start to become attracted to each other. Meeting a guy we really connect with on a platonic level is rare, so when we find him we instantly want something more. But what happens when it’s clear the other person doesn’t want to take it to the next level?

(RELATIONSHIPS) 10 Signs Your Boyfriend is a Bully!

 

By: Jerry Plaza


Love can blind us to bullying in unforeseen ways. You probably won’t see it until years down the line, and even then you still try and mask it with past memories—“Somewhere inside is that man I fell in love, so I’m going to keep on keeping on.”

Sometimes boyfriends change into bullies right before your very eyes and you’re the only keeping yourself from escaping. The last thing you want to do is waste your time being chiseled away by a beautiful monster. Check out the signs:

(COMMUNITY) How to Handle Negative Friends!

By: David Artavia
GAY GUYS

There are people in this world who are always going to be negative—they can’t help it. They’ve trained themselves to close their minds off from possibilities and choosing to focus on the lack of them. Over time these self-constraints pile up to create personal enslavement, which affects everyone around them.

I’ve been there, we all have: those days where everything you do seems to be wrong and never ends up getting you where you want to go. But eventually, something happens that gives us a glimmer of hope. We hold onto that hope for dear life, hoping it will grow. Much to our surprise, it usually does—this is because we unconsciously had been relishing in positivity in spite of ourselves.

(IMAGE) Stop Pressuring Yourself to be Perfect!

By: David Artavia
GAY GUYS


I’ve always wanted to be someone I’m not. For years I carried the image of a man I hoped people associated me with, and for years I tried my hardest to match it. But all this time while I was chasing an imaginary person, I was neglecting my actual self.

I ran in circles always pressuring myself to be what I thought they wanted me to be. Before I knew it, years had passed and I still hadn’t given myself time to know who I was. I didn’t want to. The only person I had time for was the imaginary man I was striving to become. “He” was getting all the acclaim while I tried to stay in the corner. Little by little I felt myself disappear.

If we spend our whole lives trying to be what our culture tells us is “perfect,” we are always going to be slaves. This mindset will stay and morph into something ugly. It will bleed into all aspects of our lives; soon we’ll never be satisfied until we get approval. Little by little we’ll forget what our voice sounds like. We’ll end up becoming a blind wonderer searching for something we cannot define, driven by the applause from others.

(SEX TALK) I Fell in Love With My Best Friend & Our Sex Life Is Awesome!

By: Blake Michaels
GAY GUYS

It’s interesting what happens when you start having feelings for your best friend—you don’t just welcome new emotions, you also bring secrets of the past: the stories, the drunken regrets and all that’s in between. But my man and I are a whole different story, honey.

Five years ago if you would have said I’d be shacking it up with my best friend, I’d have thought you were crazy. Countless of mutual friends told us how great we were together and how much they wanted us to date—both of us squealed with laughter at the thought of seeing each other naked. Little did we know how right they were.

Dating your best friend has enormous benefits, but the best one above all is the sex.

(RELATIONSHIPS) Is Cyber Sex Considered Cheating?

By: Blake Michaels
GAY GUYS

It doesn’t take a lot to get my man jealous—one glance, one smile, and it gets weird. He doesn’t go overboard; in fact I think it’s kinda cute when he gets a little jelly. But I can’t help but wonder why he lives on one side of the jealous spectrum when other guys exist on the other.

Online hookups and hookup apps run rampant in our community, honey. For many gay guys entering a new relationship, the concern is always in the back of our minds—can I trust him? We’re curious as to what we might find in his phone, but to save endless hours of obsessing we tell ourselves it’s fine and we’re being crazy. But at the end of the day, is cyber sex really cheating?

The home wrecker is on the other side of the screen—probably across the damn country. Hell, your man might even be paying for it. He isn’t sneaking out of the house to a secret boyfriend waiting for him with his ass in the air like a kitty. One of the interesting aspects about cyber cheating is that emotional attachment is rarely an issue because the whole point of it is to not get attached.

(RELATIONSHIPS) My BF Refuses to Top, What do I do?

By: Blake Michaels
GAY GUYS

Compatibility has many layers, honey. One of the most important, if not the most, has to do with sex. I’d like to be the bigger person and say it’s all about love, connection and intimacy. Don’t get me wrong, all that is important too, but when it comes to being mentally and emotionally stable within a partnership, you need to be comfortable with your current sex life.

It doesn’t matter what “role” you prefer to have in the bedroom, so long as it’s something you’re satisfied with. If your man is someone you’ve decided will last a long while, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t demand the sex you deserve. But what happens if your fantasies and urges don’t mesh with his?

Getting bottomed is fabulous not just because it feels amazing, but because it’s confirmation that your man finds you desirable. He has an erection, a hard one, for you – and he wants to be inside you. The whole thing is supposed to be a statement on where your devotion is with each other, but because we’ve turned it into something less meaningful, it’s become a lot more selfish.

(IMAGE) Young,Gay & Broke…But Still Fabulous!

By: Blake Michaels
GAY GUYS

Money is like a deity, honey, and we all are quick to get on our hands and knees and work for it. But no matter how hard we sweat we never seem to have enough to live the kind of lifestyle we proclaim to have—gay nightlife requires us to spend money like there’s no tomorrow. But nowadays everyone seems to be broke…

I’m not going to be all high brow and pretend like I have money. I don’t. In fact, our lack of money is a common thread my friends and I share. But another thing that links us together is an understanding that you don’t need money to have a good time. If that were the case I’d have been dead years ago.

Wake up and look in the mirror—that didn’t cost you a cent, honey.

(SEX TALK) Is Being Uncut A Handicap For Gay Men?

By: Jerry Plaza
GAY GUYS

Cut or uncut is usually the first question asked when you’re talking to someone on Grindr. As soon as you hear it, you wait patiently for the person on the other end to stop judging you and whatever response you get has the power to affect your sexual confidence.

Depending on your answer, you’re sure to either turn on or turn off a great number of men. Gay guys in America are often scared of the unknown or unrecognizable and since the U.S. is the only country in the world where the majority of baby boys are circumcised for non-religious reasons, is it safe to say that when it comes to dating those with foreskins don’t make the cut?

It’s difficult for the uncircumcised community to feel welcome, especially when it’s clear the majority of Americans don’t accept them. Even those with foreskin seem to prefer men who are cut. It’s as if we’ve taken one bad sexual experience and made a sweeping generalization that all gay guys with foreskin are dirty or unhealthy. This is anything but true.

(SEX TALK) The Hidden Truth About A Gay Man’s G-Spot!

By: Blake Michaels
GAY GUYS


I have to say, a lot of people are hating on the Male G-Spot. Some say it doesn’t exist, others say it’s as real as apple pie. To those who are nonbelievers, I hope they and their vanilla sex live a long and happy life together. I have seen the promised land, and let me tell you, I’m never going back again!

It’s easy for people to say that the G-spot is an urban legend, after all, it’s not exactly a scientific term. Most likely it was discovered by gay men in the early days, proving that gay men are always ahead of their time.
Despite the stigma it has, many people still don’t know exactly what it is and how to achieve what they call an “anal orgasm.” Lucky for you, I happen to be an expert at this particular topic. I don’t mean to brag, but my G-Spot and I have a very close intimate relationship. Because of this, I jump at any opportunity to spread my knowledge around.

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(DATING) 8 Easy Things You Can Do To Drive Guys Wild!

By: Jerry Plaza
GAY GUYS

I can’t help it. I love to watch boys everywhere I go – we all do, right? It’s a weakness we’re susceptible to give into at one point in our day. As a self-confessed man watcher, I’ve picked up on a few tips to really get the attention of the boys. They’re easy to do and are so obvious you probably do them without even realizing it. They are:

(RELATIONSHIPS) Is Gay Porn Killing Love?

By: Blake Michaels
GAY GUYS 

There are certain minds out there in the world that think porn has the potential of replacing love. When we believe that all we need is a hand to squeeze a few spurts of love juice, being single becomes less depressing. The effort of hunting, searching, and cruising for a man is no longer as sought after in today’s digital world. But is that threatening the nature of love?

We’re human beings, and love is one of our most enviable emotions to obtain. We feel better about ourselves knowing there is at least one person who loves us unconditionally. Some of us find it more than once, but for those who have it now, it over exceeds all kinds of pursuits, including lust. That’s how powerful it is.

Porn is convenient. It’s there for us during our dry periods, even our wet periods. In many ways, it teaches us how to have amazing sex and kept us from driving ourselves crazy. Sometimes our fantasies can be so extreme that porn is the only way to let it out – something we might not have been able to do in the real world.

(IMAGE) How to Gain Sex Appeal Without Ever Going to the Gym!

By: David Artavia
GAY GUYS

Sex appeal is hard to come by because it’s ingrained within us. We can’t describe why we’ve fallen for the barista down the street, our sexy neighbor who helps us take out the trash, or that one Uber driver with a permanent smile. It’s more than just confidence. They have it.

But this “it” thing isn’t attained at the gym. Sure you might be super attracted to a man with a chiseled body, but that’s not sex appeal. They’re eye candy, and candy is always eaten eventually. If you want sex appeal, no need to go to the gym.

(SEX TALK) How NOT to Treat a Man After Having Sex!

By: Blake Michaels
GAY GUYS


One of the things I love about sex is the build up. Sometimes sexual tension lasts for a really long time – way before you actually get in bed. You might work with each other, go to school with each other, meet each other several times at various parties, and all the while the urge for each other gets stronger. It would be a shame to have it disappear because you treated him like an asshole.

In recent years, sex has become so blasé. Gay guys have developed their own routine around it that’s personal and, in a way, selfish. In an effort to protect our hearts and minds, we’ve trained ourselves to detach ourselves from any kind of emotional bond. Trust me when I say it’s only going to do more harm than good. You say want to make a real connection with a man?