(RELATIONSHIPS) 7 Signs Your Boyfriend Is Shallow As Fu*k!

 

By: Jerry Plaza
GAY GUYS

When any relationship is built around the physical rather than the emotional, there’s literally no need to have a deeper connection. Vulnerability is one of the most powerful things at the beginning because it’s proof that they’re seeing beneath the skin and hair and love handles. There’s a sense of calmness when it comes to exposing your truth to him, which rarely happens when superficiality overpowers everything.
Some people in this world are easier to connect with because they don’t judge value based on what they see. When we use our looks as currency, we’re likely to experience a lot of heartache. The people we thought were our true friends prove us wrong and those who we assumed had our back do the same. Shallowness starts with our ability to play society’s image game. It takes a strong person to step back. Here are a few red flags I’ve picked up along the way.


#1) They make you feel like you’ve “earned” them.

Men are extremely sensitive people. They’re always in need for someone to affirm their value, and one of the easiest ways to do that is through subliminal control. He wants you to believe how lucky you are to have him in your life not because it’s true (most the time it isn’t), but because he wants to feel more important than he is. We workout and bust each other’s balls because we want to have a power.

 #2) The passion is strictly sexual.
 
You have passion for sure, but it’s always tied to sex. There’s no passion in how you feel about each other outside the bedroom. This is probably because all of the focus is on your bodies – what would happen if you happen to gain ten or fifteen pounds? What might happen when you start balding? Will the passion die? Recognize where the passion starts before you jump into a relationship. If it depends on how sexy you think the other is, it is only going to last as long as you body holds up.

#3) All of their friends/exes are ridiculously hot.
 
I hate to admit it, but gay guys love to be around hot people because for whatever reason, it makes us feel hotter. It’s as if we truly believe their attractiveness will rub off on us. But for the most part it always results in us being the “average” friend or the “ugly” one in the relationship. I’ve experienced both more times than I can count, and it’s not nice. When you feel like you need to maintain a certain look to keep your friends, clearly they aren’t true friends in the first place. They’ll never have your back as much as someone who loves you in spite of your morning breath will.

 #4) They’ve never been chubby in their life & actually resent fat people.
 
I’ve been around so many people who use the word “hate” when referring to plus size people. Why, I’ll never understand. It’s these kinds of people who need help – not the big people they’re making fun of. They clearly know nothing about body types, science, or metabolism because they’re relying on a manmade image we constantly believe is real. Everyone comes in different shapes and sizes no matter how many hours we put in the gym.

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