(IMAGE) How to Handle Rejection in a Healthier Way!

By: David Artavia
GAY GUYS

Every rejection is another reminder that someone or something doesn’t “want” us. We consider it evidence to what our true value is—we aren’t worthy enough to have it, therefor we aren’t good enough for anything. The cycle continues until we start to believe it.

Take comfort in knowing that all humans have felt this way at some point in their lives. It’s the only way we allow ourselves to self-reflect on what our purpose ought to be. If we received everything we ever wanted in life, chances are we’d never know the value of it.

Rejection is a part of humanity, and quite an important one at that. 99.9% of the time things aren’t going to work out according to plan—it’s how we handle it that makes us grow.


It’s time to look deeper at the word “no” and realize that when someone says it’s impossible, what they real mean is that it’s impossible for them. Believing anyone, even your own mother, when they say you can’t do something is the epitome of naivety. It’s like someone saying, “Here try this rat poison. It won’t kill you, I promise.” You’re taking their word as truth, when really the only voice you should ever believe is your own.
Everyone speaks from the realm of his or her own experience. We all are born in different environments—rich, poor, single home, divorced, foster houses, adoption, in the city, in the country. Sometimes we’re lucky to be around a great group of friends, other times we aren’t.

The sooner you realize that your life depends on a series of random events, the easier it will be to let go of trying to control everything.

It’s hard to hear the word “no” when we’ve spent countless hours daydreaming of “yes.” We preplan our lives and futures depending on that word, and when we receive the opposite it’s cataclysmic to our self-esteem. Everything is ruined, that is until you find something else to daydream about—therein lies the solution.

The second you hear the word “no” there is always going to be someone out there who will say “yes.” That’s the hope you must hold onto. Part of being mature is allowing yourself to swim freely around barriers without having it effect your groove—not sweating the small stuff. It’s easier said than done I know.

A constant stream of rejection means nothing until you allow it to define you. When you tell yourself you’re a reject, a discard, it will become your identity. Soon you’ll enter every project, every relationship, and every encounter believing you are to be rejected.

Instead of letting the word “no” become your identity, what you ought to do is change the meaning of it to “not right now.” Sometimes we truly aren’t ready, other times when they say no they don’t think you’re a reject; they were looking for something different—and being different isn’t bad, it’s just different.

Every tear shed makes a giggle more meaningful because you know how healing it can be. Without rejection you will never be able to appreciate the joys in life when they appear. Hearing the word “no” should never mean “never.” Change your outlook on the word and your entire life will become one giant YES.